Unrealistic

I have learned over the past year or so that I have developed unrealistic visions of love or how guys should act. I'm a sucker for a romance novel or chick flick. Any sort of love story really. Because of that, I think that guys should show these grand gestures. I build up these scenarios in my head and end up getting let down. It's my own fault really. But I can't shy away from a good love story. It's who I am.

Managing (Part 2)

With everything aside, I still love my girls. They are like my children. They are struggling in this game. We have been undefeated since 2010. It hurts me to see them struggling, knowing there is nothing that I can do to help them. My heart is breaking for them right now. Come on Lady Lions! You can do this!

Managing

So I manage the girls volleyball team. This is my third year doing it. I have been since I was a freshman. I'm the only manager that has been with them since I was a freshman. Last year and freshman year, I was too young to work, so I didn't. Obviously. But this year I can work and I do. I have a job,. I've been doing my best jumping between school, work, and volleyball practices and games. I'm a busy girl. And lately, I've had two of the players-one for JV and one for varsity- "joke" that I'm not a manager because I'm never here. Like fuck that. I've only missed a few games (only two home ones which are the ones that actually do something at) and a few practices (which I don't do anything at anyways). So to be told that I don't count as a "manager anymore" pisses me off. I FUCKING WORK. It's not like I'm missing practices and games for no reason. So why don't you players who think that unravel your panties from their bunches and realize that I wouldn't miss stuff for no reason and that I had another commitment. They should know me better than that anyways.

Being Ignored Part 2

The fact that I had to make another blog post about home much I hate being ignore should prove that I fucking hate it. Like honestly, it's like someone saying "fuck you." I just wanna walk by them and be like "okay then. Fuck you too buttface." Like its one thing to not answer someone because you didn't hear them or you didn't know they were talking to you, but its completely different to know they are talking to you and just ignore them like they aren't there. Ugh! It freakin pisses me off bro.

That Girl

I have a problem. A boy problem. So I like this boy, but he has a girlfriend. Boys with girlfriends are off limits. It's like girl code or just the humane thing to do. Like I was that girl one time and that was a huge mistake. I don't want to go back there. The guy just used me. We didn't hook up or anything, but he cheated on his girlfriend. I don't know about you guys, but I like to relate my life to songs. And strangely, so many songs are like, my life.

1) We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together by Taylor Swift

Oh my goodness. This is like 10000% my life. My absolute favorite part of the song is when she sings, "So he calls me up, and he's like 'I still love you' and I'm like, just like, ugh, we are never getting back together, like, ever." You don't know how many times my ex pulls this shit on me. Like, honestly. And I fell for it every time. Every. Single. Time. Until now. Now, I'm just like mhmmmm suuuuuuure. 

2) Inevitable by Jessie James

I just listened to this today for the first time is such a long time, and it really reminds me of my situation right now. One line, specifically, makes me think. "Why don't you tell her about me? Tell her the truth." I'm pretty sure this guy's girlfriend doesn't know that me and her boyfriend talk. If she does know about me, I'm sure the extent of her knowledge is that we work together. If he is so tempted by me, I don't get why he doesn't just break up with her. Okay, that was kinda selfish, but still. Like if you really like someone you shouldn't like someone else, right? Ugh. 

But then I was thinking. Just because your tempted by someone, doesn't necessarily mean that you like that someone. It could just mean that you want to hook up with them. I'm not that kind of girl. I'm not a hump&dump kind of girl. I want a relationship. I can't not get attached. I'm a very emotional person. And maybe I'm overthinking or something. But maybe not. I do know something though. I absolutely do NOT want to be THAT girl.

Why? Because that girl gets a bad rap. That girl gets shit on for, like, ever. That girl always feel like crap afterwards, like she's a bad person. That girl never wins. 

My Best Friend

My best friend had to be one of the prettiest girls on the planet. Inside and out. Gorgeous. She's super shy, but with some people she's an absolute maniac.

She has like the perfect life. Perfect family, perfect personality, perfect everything. She is literally flawless. I can't think of one flaw or bad thing about her.

She just did a cover of Nicki Minaj's Super Bass. It was like an acoustic version of it. And is was AMAZING. I never knew she could sing. Let alone sing like that. Like I was blown away. That's how good it was.

Anyways, I just thought I would let ya'll meet my bestest friend, Kenzie.

Observing

Hey guys! Wow, I've been posting a lot lately. It's this google blogger app for my phone. Yes, there is an app for that. I know, I'm cheesy. Anyways, with this app I can rant, rage, and talk to you guys as much as I want to. Great huh? I think so.

Anyways, I consider myself to be an observer. A listener. Don't get me wrong, I love talking as much as the next person, but sometimes I just like to listen. Especially when I'm in a large group of people. Like at a bonfire for example. I'll sit around the fire and listen to everything. I'll listen to people rant and rage, or the crickets or something else in nature. It depends.

When I don't talk, people tend to think I'm in a bad mood. This is not always the case. And they never take the "I just don't have anything to say" line. But most of the time it's true! Sometimes I really don't have anything to say. I just listen. If someone is talking to me, I'll answer them. But if everyone is talking to each other, I tend to just sit back and listen.

This is part of the reason I want to be a therapist. I am a good listener and I am good at observing someone's behavior or body language. The other part is that I like to help people and give people advice.

But yeah, I consider myself to be an observer. A listener. Sometimes a talker. Plus, I feel like in large groups, your secrets get spread faster of you talk. I like my secrets to remain secrets. They keep people interested ;)

Being Ignored

Oh my gosh. I absolutely hate being ignored. Like it is my #1 pet peeve. Like fucking answer me dammit. It's not that fucking hard. It absolutely pissssssses me off. Okay. Another slight rant this evening. Thanks!

Such a Good Mood

So I was in such a good mood all day. ALL DAY. I mean, I got an 88 on my AP bio quiz (I count that as a 108 on a normal quiz because its AP) and my class (class of 2014) won pride week for the second year in a row. I painted my nails, finally. And I was in SUCH a good mood. Then I came to work.

Sometimes when I come to work, my good mood remains. Not tonight. Everyone has such a crappy attitude. When people have are in a crappy mood, it tends to bring your mood down. Plus, my monthly present came to visit this week so my moods are fucking swinging.

Everything was good until everyone got in a pissy mood. That instantly changed my mood. Plus if you treat me like shit, I'm not going to be all ponys and roses. Like no. Then you're like "dude, I think she's mad." No fucking shit Sherlock. And then proceed to talk about me in your "secret language" which you think I can't understand, but I do. Real smooth. Like fucking butter.

So yeah. I just ranted to whoever was reading this, so thanks. You guys are the best!

Seriously?

Sometimes people piss me the hell off. Like honestly. I was have such a good day too and people just have to go and ruin it. Like omg.
*Back Story* So when I was in 5th grade, I was bullied off of the swim team. Because this girl was mad because I was better than she was. I was swimming for longer than she was. Tell me how that makes sense. Please. So I took all of middle school off from swimming. So three years. Now that's kind of a long time. Anyways, so I go back to swimming my freshman year of high school. And everything was going good. I was a little rusty, but it's like riding a bike, ya know? You never forget how to do it. And the kicker? I was still better than she was and she didn't take any tome off. Lol you suck.
Now I'm a Junior. And this winter I'll be on the swim team again. We have 3 captains for the girls team. All seniors. We have had a sad occurrence that just past so I thought to get everyone in a good, happy mood again, I'd plan a team bonding bonfire at my house. I planned it all, took the day off, the whole shebang. So I told everyone that I needed an answer to whether they were going by the 1st of October. So when no one really responded, I sent out another message.
This is where things get interesting. I get a text message from a captain asking me to not plan anymore team bonding sessions because normally captains or seniors do that. Are you serious?! AND she said to not talk about apparel anymore because they want to do that. MY MOM ORDERS THE APPAREL. Like you have to be kidding right now. So I was like whatever.
So my mom and I are talking about it later and she told me I should say something. But I don't want to because I don't want to start shit. But mainly, I don't want to be bullied off the swim team again. Swimming is my outlet. It destresses me. If I lose swimming again, I'm not going to be fun to deal with. So I tell my mom I don't want to say anything. That I'll just drop it. Does she understand this? No. Of course not. She goes and messages the captains and talks about it. Like what are you doing? I specifically said that I wanted to drop it and then she does this.
If shit is going to start because of this and my life becomes hell, maybe I'll just swim recreationally. That's not what I want though. I love the team. Everything was great before this and they are like my second family. I don't know what's changed, if anything, but I want to go back to how it was freshman year.
But that was pretty much what I had to say. That people piss me off sometimes. And yeah. Okay, bye. I'm going to bed, so goodnight.

Just Talking

Hey guys! Wow, it feels like I haven't talked about anything in a whiiiiiiiile! Maybe it has been too long? I'll try to post something when I have more free time, I promise! But, I don't know when that will be because I have school, volleyball, and homework during the week, and work & sleep on the weekends. Be patient, I'll get there!

Anyways,  I have had a problem the past few weeks. Not like a huuuuuge, life-threatening problem, just like a typical, high school girl problem. So I like this guy, like a lot. Now, in a normal situation, this isn't a problem. In this certain situation, it is. The problem with this is that he has a girlfriend. Red flag. Now there are two things that I could do.
      1) I could tell said boy - but then I could possibly be considered "that girl" or "homewrecker" or something like that. That is definitely something I don't want to be. Plus, if I tell this completely unexpecting boy how I feel, there is a greater chance that it could just get awkward and stuff. Especially since we're friends and things are great right now.
      2) I could also just bottle my feelings up, like I do with everything else, and hope they go dormant. Not that I see this happening anytime soon. The problem with this plan is that I could end up feeling like crap. Another issue with this plan is that if I keep trying to deny how I feel, the feelings could grow more. Ugh. Why is this so complicated.

The way I look at this, it's pretty much a lose-lose situation if I try to take fate into my own hands. I mean, if he took the reigns showed me a sign or something, sure. But, that proooooobably wont happen.

Like, have you ever liked someone so much that you're always thinking about them? And when you get a text message you just want it to be from that person? And you get all tingley and happy if you see them, or someone says their name?

Ugh why does everything have to be so complicated? Being a girl, feelings, the whole shebang. This sucks. Anyways, that's my mini rant for this post. If you guys can offer any advice, please do! It would be very much appreciated! Thanks!

Untitled

So I thought it was about time for another post. Well, this is going to be kind of like a rant. So last Friday, I had to go to work. Now I had to work with these two managers- lets call them Tweedle Dee and Tweedle Dum. Now Tweedle Dee was gone for two weeks and I'm pretty sure his first day back was Thursday. Now we got new computers the two weeks he was gone. Clearly he wasn't going to know how to work them, unlike the rest of us who had time to learn them.

Now I am not completely Desk and not completely Kitchen. I go where ever they need me to be. If they don't need me anywhere specific, I stay at the desk because I figure I could help them with something. Now,  we are really busy on weekends. Tweedle Dee and Tweedle Dum shouldn't be working together. When we got really busy, I had to pick up the slack from what they aren't doing. They're managers, I'm not.

So we get really busy and we have like 3 big groups waiting to be rung up. One group was like 20 people. And what happens? One of out computers freezes. We only have one computer for 4 people to use. So instead of one person trying to fix it, Tweedle Dee and Tweedle Dum both shut down themselves. Now I'm stuck ringing in 20 people, giving them shoes, and getting them lanes ALL BY MYSELF. WHILE THESE TWO ARE JUST STARING AT THE FROZEN COMPUTER. What?!

Later on in the night, both computers completely stop working! Not my night. Keep in mind that only one manager has to go into the office to call TecSupport. Do they think this way? Of course not. They both run into the office to call TecSupport. They leave me, BY MYSELF, to deal with unhappy customers who can't be rung in because of the stupid computers. I SHOULDN'T HAVE TO DO THAT. THAT'S A MANAGERS JOB. NOT MINE.

Everyone kept telling me to talk to the District Manager and the person who makes the schedule. I know I'm not the only one who feels like they shouldn't work together either. No one likes Tweedle Dee. Even Tweedle Dum doesn't like Tweedle Dee.

I haven't had a chance to talk to the DM yet, but I tried to talk to the schedule maker today to ask them not to be put on the schedule together. All I get out is, "Can I talk to you" and then he cut me off. He was like, "If you're going to talk to me about Thing 1&2, I don't want to hear it. I can't make the schedule according to who wants to work with who and who doesn't want to work with who." FUNNY CAUSE YOU DO THAT EXACT THING. HE NEVER WITHS WITH TWEEDLE DEE OR TWEEDLE DUM. AND HE HAS NEVER WORKED WITH THEM TOGETHER. LIKE WHAT THE HELL, MAN.

I'm not going to try to talk someone if they're going to blow me off. I'll save my breath. But he can't tell me that I didn't try to talk to him about it. I will go off on someone. I have to work with them this Friday AND next Friday. Honestly, I'm not going to be able to handle them. Fuck that shit.

Okay, I think my rant is over. Thanks for listening!

Sickness

Hello readers! Sorry I haven't blogged in a while. I've been sort of sick. I have had a sore throat and stuffy nose for a few days now. Yesterday, I had no voice at all. Now for the duration of my sickness, I have had a lot of people come over and feel my forehead and my cheeks. I know I don't have a fever, and if I thought I did, I would've used a thermometer. It is the weekend, I want to do things. I don't want people touching my face and telling me I can't do things or shouldn't do things. It would be one thing if it was my parents, but my sister was doing it too. Like yesterday, I wasn't feeling to hot, so all I did yesterday was watching tv and sleep. Nothing else. But I still had people touching my face and telling me to rest. I'm sick of it. Blah.

Shit-Talkers

Hello my readers! Sorry I haven't written in a while. I have been a little busy.

Let me just say that I hate shit-talkers. I know two people who have recently run into this (two who shall not be named). Anyways, they are having an issue with the same ST (shit-talker). So this ST broke up with her boyfriend and claims she's "over him." But one of these girls is talking to the ST's ex-boyfriend and the ST gets all bent out of shape about it. Just so we're clear, SHE BROKE UP WITH HIM AND IS "OVER HIM." So the girl's sister writes on her Facebook wall talking about immature people. The ST automatically thinks this is about her, which it is not. (I am aware of these facts because my friend is the sister in this story). So the ST and her friends start ST-ing all over Facebook about my friend and her sister. Not cool man, not cool.

Let's get another thing straight. THAT POST WASN'T EVEN ABOUT HER. But this one is ;)

Driving

Sorry I haven't written in like a week. It's been April vacation and I do have somewhat of a life. Well, kinda. Anyways, I got my permit on Wednesday, April 11 (which is also my birthday). I didn't officially start driving until Sunday, April 15. It was a night quite like tonight - dark and rainy.

I would like to consider myself a pretty good driver. I used to like driving. Until Friday, April 20th, happened. Friday was an awful day to begin with. On Friday I was going out to lunch with my grandparents. I stupidly offered to drive. Okay, it was me, my parents, my sister, and my grandparents all going out to lunch. I had to drive my mother's Honda Odyssey, which is a van. Until that day, I haven't driven anything but my car - a 1990 Ford Tempo. For those of you who don't know what that looks like, its a somewhat small car.

I wasn't nervous when I started driving. Getting onto the main roads though, is a whole different story. I was going through the main intersection in town, when my mother, sister, and grandmother started yelling at each other about my driving. WHILE I AM DRIVING. Doesn't help much. At this point in my driving career, I haven't driven with large groups of people, who are yelling at each other, in a van, while I'm driving.

Now, I'm signaling to turn into the Olive Garden parking lot. I start turning and almost get into a head-on collision. This was in no way my fault. When this happens, my mother gasps, and expresses "MY van!" Her daughter could have gotten into a head-on collision but she was worried about her van. Okay. By this point, I am flustered and frustrated. I park the car in the Olive Garden parking lot and start to cry. Yes, cry. I refused to drive home.

I did not give up though! I offered to drive my dad to the bowling alley (in my car) later that night. On the way over to the bowling alley, a golf cart decides to come out of nowhere and swerve in and out of the road. Okay guy, cool. At this point in my day, I am ready to just crawl under a rock and stay there for the rest of my life. I get to the bowling alley, go to the bar to see my mom, and I start crying again. It has been that kind of day. I planned on drowning my sorrows away with Shirley Temples.

I have not driven since Friday. It's not that I'm afraid to, it's that no one wants to let me or drive with me. So now, I'm not a huge fan of driving.

~Hayley

The Triple O

The Triple O: Overly Obnoxious Observers. When I use the word "observers," I mean sports observers. No matter where you go, there is almost always at least one family member that is overly obnoxious. You can almost always tell which family member the kid belongs to in one of two ways. Either 1) the kid has that look of sheer horror on their face whenever their family member opens their mouth; or 2) they are just as loud as the family member they belong to.  In the past two days, I have come into contact with two of these Triple Os.

On Friday I had a volleyball game at a location I am not at liberty to disclose. During the JV game, this parent didn't have a child playing, so she was quiet. During the varsity game, she let loose. She started screaming during the warm-ups. If her kid was practicing hits, you'd hear "NICE HIT JONNY!" (This is not the kid's name). If he was practicing serves, "NICE SERVE JONNY! WOOOOOO!" During the actual game, the yelling was intensified. No other parent's were cheering, just her. Even if her kid didn't even touch the ball during the play, you'd hear "JONNNNNNNY! NICE JOB KID!" It was ridiculous. In this case, you could tell which kid she belonged to because "Jonny" was just as loud as she was. Just. As. Loud. If someone from our team was serving, just as they were going to hit the ball, you'd hear "FLOOOOOOOOAT" or "JUUUUUUUUUUMP!" It was quite unnecessary and really, really annoying.

On Saturday, I had a banquet. Banquets = awards. Whenever "Amy" would get an award, her family would be like "WOOOOOOOO AMMMMMAAAAAAYYYYYY! During an award ceremony or a banquet, practically nobody cheers. People clap. But every time "Amy" would go accept a trophy, plaque, medal, whatever, her family would obnoxiously yell for her. Unlike the previous story, "Amy" had a look of sheer horror on her face whenever they'd open their mouths and yell for her. Poor "Amy."

The only way a Triple O can be handled is if you beat their team. That'll shut them right up. Personally, that's the way I like to handle it too.

~Hayley

Liars

I hate when people lie. Specifically, I hate when people lie to me. If you lie to someone they are bound to find out sooner or later. Either they are going to find out, or they already know. If they already know, you just dug yourself a deeper hole. There will be consequences for lying too! Whether it's your parents, friends, significant other, or teacher, there will be consequences to lying.

If it's your parents : you could be grounded and/or have something taken away for a sufficient amount of time (depending on how big your screw up was).

If it's your friends : They'll be mad at you. Maybe they'll never trust you again. There is also the possibility that you could lose a friend, again, depending on how big your screw up was.

If it's your significant other : That lie could be the end of your relationship. No one likes a liar.

If it's your teacher : You could get detention, a zero, etc.

No lie is worth the risk o what you can lose. Just be honest. It really isn't that hard people!

Hypocrites

Asdfghjkl this is something that bothers me so much. So much that it could possibly ruin my day. This happened to me today. It absolutely ruined my day.

Today in my Honors Algebra 2 class, my friend found something out about his relationship. He found out that someone was getting "in the middle of it." He got all bent out of shape and was all mad at this girl getting in the middle of his relationship. This got me thinking.

He got in the middle of my relationship around the beginning of October. He got right in the middle of it. As of now, I am no longer with the my former boyfriend. I believe that if it wasn't for my "friend" that I would still be in my relationship. Honestly. AND I'm not the only one he's done this too.

It really bothers me when people have double standards and are hypocrites. Like honestly, go by your own standards. Don't get mad at someone else for what you do.

This was kind of a short post today. Short but ranting. It felt good to get that off my chest. Goodnight!

~Hayley

Easter!

Happy Easter everyone! I just want to take a moment to shout out to my sister Chelsea because today is her 17th birthday! We were talking about her birthday yesterday and the conversation went like this:
Chelsea: "My birthday is my favorite day of the year. It only comes once a year."
Me: "Really Chelsea?! It only comes once a year?! And so do Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter, etc."
Chelsea: "But Christmas is for everyone. My birthday is just for me."
Me: "Well that's selfish."
Chelsea: "Eh. I don't really like it being on Easter this year though."
Me: "Why? Cause you have to share it with God and it isn't 'just for you'?"
Chelsea: "No......"

Anyways, another Easter moment in the Johnson household. My dad was talking about Tim Tebow. My mom comments in saying "Over 30,000 people were going to his service today." Now, when people say 'service' in that context, it usually means that person has died. So thinking that, I said, "TIM TEBOW DIED?!" My whole family looks at me and my mom was like, "No, his church service." NOBODY CALLS IT A CHURCH SERVICE. IT IS REFERRED TO AS MASS NOW. Common mistake, but now everyone thinks I am stupid, including Chelsea's friend Disha.

Chelsea and Disha are huuuuge football fans. Huge. They are in love with the Patriots. Although in love with the Patriots, they are more in love with two of the football players. Specifically Wes Welker (Chelsea's pick) and Aaron Hernandez (Disha's pick). Disha tweets to Hernandez every day. That's dedication. Today, being Chelsea's birthday and all, Disha decided to be nice and tweet to Wes Welker saying how much Chelsea loves him and how today is her birthday, yadda yadda yadda. Chelsea thinks it will be absolutely hilarious if Wes Welker retweets that before Aaron Hernandez retweets for Disha. Personally, I think they're both going to get restraining orders from the two football players before they get anything else. But, knowing Chelsea and Disha, they would cherish the restraining orders because they'd be from Welker and Hernandez.

Anyways, I just wanted to wish everyone a Happy Easter and my sister a happy birthday!

~Hayley

Grammar

People need to learn grammar. Everyone who doesn't know the difference between two, to, and too need to learn it; there, their, and they're need to learn it; your and you're need to learn it. If you don't use any of those 3 in the right context, it makes you look like an idiot. I had a run in with this today.

I was on Twitter today and this girl (I don't even know) tweeted Beau Mirchoff from MTV's Awkward. She used the wrong kind of your/you're. I replied on it letting her know that instead of "your," it was "you're**". This girl got all bent out of shape because I corrected her. She tweeted to me and was like "omg stop tweeting You're... your like the 50th one. clever." Notice she used the wrong kind of your/you're yet again. You would have thought she would have learned by now. I did what anyone else would do and replied back to her. I said, "oh good, I'm not the only one who knows good grammar :) oh and you're* welcome." So this girl replies "you're like 12 shut up love" and she puts some girls twitter account in there to mention her. Calling for back up? First of all, I'm almost 16. Second of all, my picture on twitter doesn't even make me look 12. Thirdly, love? I don't love you, you don't love me. We don't love each other. Don't call me love. So in addition to having bad grammar, this girl is visually impaired. I'm kind of starting to feel bad for her. LOL just kidding. So I reply back to her saying "nice job with the you're this time. And I'm actually 16 in 4 days." Okay, now this is just ridiculous. So she replies back (being bitchy) saying "OMG COOOOL NOBODY CARES." At this point, I was mostly done talking to her. My final reply to this was, "lol, nice talking to you :)" Nice and sweet.

If you're* going to use bad grammar, don't get all upset when someone corrects you on it. I am definitely not perfect but if someone corrects me on my grammar or spelling, I appreciate it because now I won't do it again. You learn something new everyday. She should have considered that a learning experience. Hopefully she won't make this mistake again. Or if she does (because she probably will) maybe this time it won't be on the internet.

       ~Hayley

Girlfriends

So a lot of my guy friends have girlfriends. Some of them I know, some of them I don't. When one of my guy friends tells me that they want me to meet their girlfriend, I'm a little apprehensive.

Remember Zoey 101? You know how Zoey and Chase were the best friends ever? Remember that episode when Chase has a girlfriend and introduces her to Zoey? Well if you don't, it goes something like this. Chase introduces his girlfriend to Zoey. When Chase is there, the girlfriend is all "Hi! Nice to meet you!" and stuff like that. BUUUUUT when Chase leaves, the girlfriend is all like "Never talk to my boyfriend again." And Zoey doesn't talk to Chase cause she doesn't want to wreck anything.

I'm afraid that is going to happen. I'm afraid a girlfriend will pull a Zoey 101. I'm afraid that I'm going to lose a friend. In Zoey 101, Chase breaks up with his girlfriend because of what she did, but what if the ending is different in reality? That is something I don't want to happen. So when someone is like "I want you to meet __________," out loud I'm like "Yeah sure!" but in my head, I'm like praying it's not Zoey 101 all over again.

I don't know why I remember this episode of Zoey 101, but for some reason it stuck with me. Is it predicting something?

Girls - Dos and Don'ts

Okay ladies! It's your turn. :)

Dos:
- be classy : No one likes a trashy girl.
- be mysterious : Give a guy some mystery. Keep a guy guessing. Don't put everything out in the open too soon.
- something nice : For anyone. Make someone's day! If you are nice to someone, karma will be nice to you. It's as simple as that.
- have a positive attitude : Life will look 10x better if you have a positive attitude than if you have a negative attitude!

Don'ts:
- be a whore : One guy, one guy only. There is no need for more than that really.
- be a home-wrecker : A guy with a girlfriend is off limits. Don't get in between a good thing.
- act stupid to get a guy's attention: You look like an idiot if you do this. Impress him with your brain. If you just giggle and twirl your hair, the guy is going to thing a sack of potatoes is smarter than you are.
- play too hard to get : If you play too hard to get, the guys is going to think you aren't interested.
- be clingy : Wanting to talk to him is different than wanting to see him every spare second you have. Don't cross that line. You'll suffocate him and that's never good.

***If anyone has any suggestions of something for me to write about, please leave a comment and let me know! :) ***

Guys - Dos and Don'ts

Hopefully many guys read this and change whatever they're doing wrong or keep doing what they're doing right!

Do:
- be chivalrous : Hold doors, pull out a chair, the whole shebang. It's just polite.
- treat a girl right and with respect : Self explanatory guys.
- introduce her to your friends : If you don't, she may think you're ashamed to be with her and/or you don't want to be seen with her.
- PDA sometimes : Sometimes being the key word. Hold hands, maybe a kiss once in a while. Do not practically have sex in public. No one wants to see that. Trust me.
- call a girl pretty, beautiful, lovely, etc. : It means so much more to be called that than it does to be called hot or sexy.

Don't:
- give a girl mixed signals : Don't be afraid to tell her how you feel.
- flirt with other girls if you have a girlfriend : Your girlfriend might think you are cheating on her and you may lose her trust.
- act differently in front of your friends : Heads up, girls don't like that. It gives her the impression that you're two-faced or fake.
- call a girl fat and/or ugly : This is a big don't. Never make fun of a girls' appearance, even if you're joking. She won't think it's funny and she will remember what you said for a long time.
- call a girl "bangable" : Never. Under any circumstances. It isn't really a compliment. It just makes things weird.

Sports

A sport, by definition, is "an activity involving physical exertion and skill in which an individual or team competes against another or others for entertainment." There are many people who disagree with this. Many people don't believe that swimming and/or cheerleading are sports. These are the most popular assumptions. Although today, I was told that softball wasn't a sport. By a baseball player. Irony?

I am a strong supporter of the swimming/cheerleading side of the sports debate. I am a swimmer currently, and I was a cheerleader.

Swimming: Being a swimmer, I take offense when people say swimming isn't a sport. Swimmers work so hard at every practice they have. We swim miles and miles each practice too. Football players, soccer players, baseball players, etc. have a whole game (roughly an hour or more) to prove themselves. We have under 3 minutes, unless you're swimming the 500. I can guarantee you that if you had to swim one of our practices, on the same time intervals, same amount of laps and yardage, that we do on a daily basis, you would have a newfound respect for swimmers.

Cheerleading: I used to be a cheerleader. I also have a good friend who is a cheerleader. The stereotype of a cheerleader is a ditzy, snobby, stuck up person. My friend isn't like that at all. My friend is one of the sweetest people I know, smart too. Sure there are some of those kinds of cheerleaders, but you are more likely to find kind cheerleaders than not. I also stick up for the cheerleaders. I know how hard they work and how many hours they practice to get their routines just right. Most people throw balls to each other, they throw people. They throw people, lift people, and do many dangerous stunts to get points and win competitions. They leave practice with bruises, cuts, and mat burns all over their bodies. I have a great respect for cheerleaders.

Next time you criticize a sport, think about all the hard work those players go through. Think about how you would do if you tried it.

~Hayley

Boy Probs

Boys: A main issue in a teenage girl's life. They're complicated, unclear, and to a girl, a necessity. There are a lot of guys in my life. Many of them friends, but there are some that give a little spark. I'm going to cover both of them.

Guy Friends: As great as guy friends can be, they can also be confusing. The definitely cause less drama than girls, but sometimes there are those times when they just don't get it. Like the other day, for example. I saw a sign, like a fate sign, and I told my guy friends in my Spanish class about my encounter with fate and they were just completely dismissive. That kind of stuff is a girl topic. But guy friends are useful for things like seeing how a guy thinks and tell tale signs that a guy likes you.

Now the part where they get confusing. When a guy friend develops feelings for you, or you develop feelings for him. If you both develop feelings for each other at the same time, things are great in your life! If one of you gets the Feeling Flu first, that's when you have a dilemma. It's also when symptoms of the Feeling Flu can be mistaken for kindness when things take a turn for the worst. When that happens, things just get awkward between you two. I have had a personal experience with this. It is not fun, trust me. It turns out that now, we really aren't good friends anymore. We had feelings for each other at different times, used to be best friends, talked all the time, and now we barely talk. Even in school. It sucks.

Boyfriends: A boyfriend has the potential of being a great thing. In many cases, a girl falls for the wrong guy and she gets hurt. It isn't always like that though. Sometimes the guy gets hurt. I don't really have anything important to say about this topic, but I do have some tips.
For girls: 1) Don't be that controlling girlfriend that doesn't let your boyfriend hang out with any other girls. 2) Trust him - If you don't trust him, don't be with him. 3) Offer to pay for dates sometimes - it's only polite. 4) Do NOT put out - we all know that guys think about sex a lot, but don't be that girl that falls for a guy, has sex with him, and gets her heart broken because that's all he wanted out of the relationship.
For guys: 1) Don't be a controlling boyfriend that doesn't let you girlfriend hang out with her guy friends - chances are she's talking about you anyways. 2) Trust her - If you don't trust her, don't date her. 3) Whenever she is upset, 9 times out of 10, she'll say "I'm fine" - It's not fine. Tell her you will always be there for her if she needs to talk or if she needs you for anything. 4) Don't ever joke about breaking up - it's probably one of her worst fears. 5) NEVER pressure her into doing something she doesn't want to do. EVER.

Ex-boyfriends: I figured I kinda had to cover this one since this subject is the whole reason I made this post. Feelings don't just go away overnight. If you truly cared for someone, they take a while to go away. Sometimes they never do. In my case, my ex-boyfriend and I are best friends now. Most cases are not like this. Most of the time the break ups are so messy that when you see your ex-significant other in public, you don't talk, make smile, or even make eye contact. It's sad.

Anyways, that's just about all I have to say on the topic. Feedback would be very much appreciated!

~Hayley

My Thoughts

First post! Super excited. I really need this as some sort of self therapy. Well not really therapy; that kind of makes me sounds crazy, which I'm not. Promise! Annnnnnywaaaaays, today was an okay day. School was okay, nothing spectacular. I came home and did homework. Then, I found out from one of my followers on Twitter that reruns of MTV's Awkward were on. I practically spent my whole day watching it.

While I was spending daylight watching such a great show, I kept reflecting on my life. I mean, Jenna Hamilton may have many awkward moments throughout her day, but she has a pretty great life. Two gorgeous guys are fighting for her attention, she has great friends, her parents are cool with like everything, and if I had a guidance counselor like she does, I would be in that office all the time. Now my life. Filled with awkward moments, similarity. I have guy friends, but none of them interested in me like that, difference. I have good friends, similarity. My parents aren't cool at all, difference. My guidance counselor suck, period. Difference.

During the Awkward Marathon, the episode of Jenna's birthday came on. I have to admit, the birthday was completely awful. But at the end, Matty came to her door and made everything all better. Now that got me thinking. I'm turning 16 in 9 (almost 8) days. For those of you reading this a tad late, I'm turning 16 on April 11. Anyways, it is a Wednesday. I don't want this Wednesday to be like any other Wednesday - school, volleyball, homework, dinner, bed. I don't want this to be like any other birthday either - just busy, busy, busy. I want something significant to happen. Something great.

I want something great. I want someone to show up at school with flowers for me. Or I want someone to surprise me with my favorite snack. I just want someone to do something out of the ordinary for me. Nothing big, just nice and unexpected.

I want something to make my sixteenth birthday memorable.

~Hayley