Guy Friends: As great as guy friends can be, they can also be confusing. The definitely cause less drama than girls, but sometimes there are those times when they just don't get it. Like the other day, for example. I saw a sign, like a fate sign, and I told my guy friends in my Spanish class about my encounter with fate and they were just completely dismissive. That kind of stuff is a girl topic. But guy friends are useful for things like seeing how a guy thinks and tell tale signs that a guy likes you.
Now the part where they get confusing. When a guy friend develops feelings for you, or you develop feelings for him. If you both develop feelings for each other at the same time, things are great in your life! If one of you gets the Feeling Flu first, that's when you have a dilemma. It's also when symptoms of the Feeling Flu can be mistaken for kindness when things take a turn for the worst. When that happens, things just get awkward between you two. I have had a personal experience with this. It is not fun, trust me. It turns out that now, we really aren't good friends anymore. We had feelings for each other at different times, used to be best friends, talked all the time, and now we barely talk. Even in school. It sucks.
Boyfriends: A boyfriend has the potential of being a great thing. In many cases, a girl falls for the wrong guy and she gets hurt. It isn't always like that though. Sometimes the guy gets hurt. I don't really have anything important to say about this topic, but I do have some tips.
For girls: 1) Don't be that controlling girlfriend that doesn't let your boyfriend hang out with any other girls. 2) Trust him - If you don't trust him, don't be with him. 3) Offer to pay for dates sometimes - it's only polite. 4) Do NOT put out - we all know that guys think about sex a lot, but don't be that girl that falls for a guy, has sex with him, and gets her heart broken because that's all he wanted out of the relationship.
For guys: 1) Don't be a controlling boyfriend that doesn't let you girlfriend hang out with her guy friends - chances are she's talking about you anyways. 2) Trust her - If you don't trust her, don't date her. 3) Whenever she is upset, 9 times out of 10, she'll say "I'm fine" - It's not fine. Tell her you will always be there for her if she needs to talk or if she needs you for anything. 4) Don't ever joke about breaking up - it's probably one of her worst fears. 5) NEVER pressure her into doing something she doesn't want to do. EVER.
Ex-boyfriends: I figured I kinda had to cover this one since this subject is the whole reason I made this post. Feelings don't just go away overnight. If you truly cared for someone, they take a while to go away. Sometimes they never do. In my case, my ex-boyfriend and I are best friends now. Most cases are not like this. Most of the time the break ups are so messy that when you see your ex-significant other in public, you don't talk, make smile, or even make eye contact. It's sad.
Anyways, that's just about all I have to say on the topic. Feedback would be very much appreciated!
~Hayley
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